I know, I know. I’m a little late to the party.
But, to be fair, I’m just following through with my resolutions.
And let me start off by saying, I used to hate resolutions.
I just couldn’t stand the idea of setting a hard and fast rule for myself that would surely be broken by week two. Because who wants to start their year feeling like a failure?
But a few years back I started lowering the stakes. And then things finally started to make sense.
I started to change my resolutions into dreams, goals, and “things to work on.”
I think we all want to be better in life–better wives, better moms, better sisters, daughters, or friends.
And I see resolutions as a road map to help us get there.
So every year, I set two or three of them.
And the key is this: There is no end goal. No failing. No measurement to say whether I “succeeded” or not…
Just me. Day in and day out. Trying to be better at this thing we call life.
And becoming a better person by trying.
So here goes, my resolutions for 2015:
1. Do more of what makes you happy
And let me emphasize the YOU.
Moms tend to put everyone else’s needs before our own–sometimes without even realizing it. I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve forgotten to eat a meal because I was too busy feeding my kids. But to be a good parent, we have to put ourselves first. Totally opposite of what our Mommy DNA tells us to do. This past year, I lost my “happy” for the sake of my families’.
Spoiler alert: It didn’t work out so well.
So I’ve spent the last few weeks studying myself. Watching. Thinking. Noticing.
What are the things, outside of my family, that make me happy? It was hard at first. Because I’ve wrapped up so much of my happiness into my kids. But the harder I looked the more I found. I got to know myself again.
Musicals. Hot baths. Magazines. Vintage Trailers. And peanut butter-chocolate shakes. It’s a quirky list, but it’s mine. ALL MINE.
I’m slowly learning what makes ME happy. And by golly, those are the things I’ll do more of this year.
2. Be present
Sometimes I curse the very existence of smart phones. But I can’t just blame technology…
I spent this past year somewhere else entirely. I was either dwelling in the past, or worrying about the future. And in that very process, I missed the “todays.”
This year, I’ve committed to stop time traveling. I’ve committed to be present, with my thoughts and my actions. To see every moment before me, and stay there.
Two weeks in, and it’s already paying dividends.
3. Do your best
Notice I didn’t say “do your perfect.”
Hi. My name is Allison. And I’m a perfection-a-holic. (That’s one step further than a perfectionist)
It’s funny. I’m well aware that life isn’t perfect, and that I can’t be either. But when it comes to the things I do? My responsibilities and tasks at hand? Good just isn’t good enough.
Except for the fact that IT IS. And thinking that “it’s not” has taken it’s toll–making me miss precious moments while trying to attain the impossible.
So this year I’m letting myself off the hook.
If the blog post isn’t perfect? I’m posting it.
If the party isn’t done? I’m having it.
And if things don’t work out just how I planned? I’m enjoying it anyways.
Because that’s life, folks.
And I refuse to miss it because I’m busy trying to make it something else.
Happy New Year, friends. I hope your 2015 is off to a fantastic start. Here’s to a year full of love, light, and dreams come true.